Obviously, most people hate to talk about illness, aging, and death. Even as a financial advisor, it can be quite difficult at times but it is extremely important to talk about and prepare ourselves and just get over it. From some research and personal experiences, here are the top 5 regrets that people on their death-beds faithfully regret:
- I wish I expressed myself and shown my true happiness. It is a personal choice to choose to be sad, miserable, evil, or happy. Yes, life can be tough and you will encounter challenges along the way, but it’s up to you whether you’re going to go about it with a smile or some other way. Many of them wished that they could have showed the silly-side of their personality and had more laugher in their lives. They realize now that it was not too hard to smile and be happy.
- I wish I had stayed in touch and made more friends. Most of them did not realize the benefits of old friends and making new ones until their dying days. Although it may have been hard to track them down, if they had to do it all over again they would had not let them slip away so easily. Many had become so caught up in their own lives and did not give themselves any time to making new friends and mistakenly letting go of golden friendships. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
- I wish I had the courage to express my true feelings. Many people kept so much anxiety, harsh feelings, jealousy, and emotions embedded inside of them to keep peace with others. They settled to be average human beings and never became who they were truly capable of. In the end, many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
- I wish I had not spent so much time working. Some of the women but the majority of the men fit this description. Many of them have missed their children’s youth and the companionship with their spouse. Men from the older generation spoke about the importance of taking care of their families and to be sure that bread was always on the table. But they regrettably wish they had not spent so much time away from their family.
- I wish I had the courage to live my ideal life. This was the most common regret of all. When people look back on their life and realize that it is almost over, it is so sad to see the number of dreams that had gone unfulfilled. A powerful quote states, “the best ideals are in the grave.” Most people had not honored their dreams and will unfortunately take them to the grave with them due to choices they had made, or not made.
Live your ideal life NOW to the fullest. Have no regrets. Call your old buddy from elementary school you’ve been dying to talk to. Say hello to your neighbor whom you had a small disagreement with about two years ago. Write that “I miss you dearly” letter to a personal dear friend who you think about all the time. Tell your mother that you love her. So, when it’s time for your departure from earth with your family and friends surrounding you, leave with a peaceful heart, love, dignity, a smile on your face, and no regrets.